Anger is the most inevitable feeling we may never run away from. In most cases the angry one feels they are the wronged one even when they are not! Now that's patturbing.
Now imagine that moment where anger has caught you off guard. What do you do?...break glass....kick chairs....sproute vulgarites at your opponent....cut your writs.....then what?
It's typical of an angry mind to be irrational...powerful body and spirit at the time but for some people....these characters fail to connect to the mind....thus those mentioned actions
The problem only arises when the damage you caused in that state gets back to you, when all the anger has disappeared and you say you can't believe you did what you did. But you did it anyway!
See...I always tell my friends to choose the things they should be mad at. I believe you can't be mad at every little thing. It's not like you're pregnant or rather too old and helpless to have this overwhelming pity over yourself!
When something meant to be a burden, an issue Occurs, have the odesity to weigh and categorise..see if it's even worth your anger! Develop this pride in you. It's not self denial....bt see...if you realize it's last on the list of your problems, shift your worries to something more worthy.
Do not let everyone or anyone get on your nerves simply because your approachable and down to earth....your humble character did not sign up for that...set your limits...you have a brain and it should serve you right.
When your boss is super mad, choose not to be mad at the same time. You can't afford two corrupted minds to clash. You might end up the loser. Get mad later....it won't kill you.
A friend could erupt over you over something you hardly know of. How do you handle them. You know they might not believe you now because they probably have the wrongest source of information. You react right away....your friendship is at stake.
Let's always make use of people's calm moments...a lot is driven to the back of the mind. The mind seeks to understand more in this state.
Breaking chairs and throwing glasses does not help....even when your indebted. You feel your getting over the edge, walk away...have a simple walk to clear your head, seek out your hobby, have a small chat with a stranger...get an unbiased opinion, and so on.
Not forgetting..the best vengeance is being successful.
Tuesday, 29 September 2015
Sunday, 26 July 2015
THE NAMES U CALL YOUR DATE BEHIND HIS BACK.
Its really fascinating how u go for this date...so excited about it. You happen to put in ur all to give the best impression while at it.
Usually u even alert ur friends so they could help u choose the best outfit for the date. But as u know different people have different styles and ways they take themselves so ur friends might agree on a dress code that is not the best in mind for u but then, deep in mind u be like...afterall its a one time thing so u let it go and bang...its the D hour.
No one looks out for disappointments while at a date...but see...they always find a way to pop out.
Say...ur a gentleman who is so time conscious and the lady takes all the time to show up...u persevere through that.
Ur a lady...all dressed up so fine and awesome for this dude and he happens to show up in funny sandals and a rugged t.shirt with a cracked belt...on a date for crying out loud!!
U have been brought up in the kind of environment where u highly observe table manners and here comes ur date...speaking with food in the mouth u can easily see his throat, move legs anyhowly u der the table and keeps stepping u..(not the romantic kind)
Cracks unnecessary jokes about ur personality....jokes are okay coz they keep the conversation flowing but when they get overly personal.. Becomes irritating.
Ur date concetrates alot on telling u about how much money they could spend on u and how many businesses they own....other than getting to know more alittle about u which is the essence of ur coming to the date in the fast place....its not a business meeting....i might verymuch want to know how ur life flows financially, but u bringing it up on an intimate date is so off point.
Picks up fallen pebbles on the he table and eats them....gross!!
Ur a man...the lady orders for more than u urself can finish and she eats only a quarter of the whole and wastes the rest!
The both of u had decided to have alil time to urselves and ur date recieves endless phonecalls.
Let me get back to the point:
For someone who has had a taste of such a terrible date, u do not expect them to get back to his buddies and say only good things about u...thats if they decide to even tell them about u.
But we all know how friends be..theyll want to know the gist of it all, how it started, went on and ended.
Theyll even ask u about the personal traits each of them wants in a man or woman.And if u decide to cover it up, some could even tell ur lying.
But any friend will openly tell how the date was and will describe the whole thing in one word according to the vocabulary u use around u in ur circles.
"It was such a total waste...guy is not styled up at all and was allover me...ewww...morover he wasnt smelling the best..as u no! Scumbag"
"Mehn...it was awesome...she was all dressed sassy and had a good scent and a lovely sense of humor.... Tell u what...she is 'ma baby'"
Above are some examples of compliments l've heard my friends put accross given their date experiences.
But if it were up to me...say i had a bad one...l'd call him a bam...yes a bam...coz its easier for me that way...summarises all the terrible compliments boiling in ma head.
So...I come back to you...
WHAT NAME WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO GAVE U A BAD DATE EXPERIENCE?
Usually u even alert ur friends so they could help u choose the best outfit for the date. But as u know different people have different styles and ways they take themselves so ur friends might agree on a dress code that is not the best in mind for u but then, deep in mind u be like...afterall its a one time thing so u let it go and bang...its the D hour.
No one looks out for disappointments while at a date...but see...they always find a way to pop out.
Say...ur a gentleman who is so time conscious and the lady takes all the time to show up...u persevere through that.
Ur a lady...all dressed up so fine and awesome for this dude and he happens to show up in funny sandals and a rugged t.shirt with a cracked belt...on a date for crying out loud!!
U have been brought up in the kind of environment where u highly observe table manners and here comes ur date...speaking with food in the mouth u can easily see his throat, move legs anyhowly u der the table and keeps stepping u..(not the romantic kind)
Cracks unnecessary jokes about ur personality....jokes are okay coz they keep the conversation flowing but when they get overly personal.. Becomes irritating.
Ur date concetrates alot on telling u about how much money they could spend on u and how many businesses they own....other than getting to know more alittle about u which is the essence of ur coming to the date in the fast place....its not a business meeting....i might verymuch want to know how ur life flows financially, but u bringing it up on an intimate date is so off point.
Picks up fallen pebbles on the he table and eats them....gross!!
Ur a man...the lady orders for more than u urself can finish and she eats only a quarter of the whole and wastes the rest!
The both of u had decided to have alil time to urselves and ur date recieves endless phonecalls.
Let me get back to the point:
For someone who has had a taste of such a terrible date, u do not expect them to get back to his buddies and say only good things about u...thats if they decide to even tell them about u.
But we all know how friends be..theyll want to know the gist of it all, how it started, went on and ended.
Theyll even ask u about the personal traits each of them wants in a man or woman.And if u decide to cover it up, some could even tell ur lying.
But any friend will openly tell how the date was and will describe the whole thing in one word according to the vocabulary u use around u in ur circles.
"It was such a total waste...guy is not styled up at all and was allover me...ewww...morover he wasnt smelling the best..as u no! Scumbag"
"Mehn...it was awesome...she was all dressed sassy and had a good scent and a lovely sense of humor.... Tell u what...she is 'ma baby'"
Above are some examples of compliments l've heard my friends put accross given their date experiences.
But if it were up to me...say i had a bad one...l'd call him a bam...yes a bam...coz its easier for me that way...summarises all the terrible compliments boiling in ma head.
So...I come back to you...
WHAT NAME WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO GAVE U A BAD DATE EXPERIENCE?
THE NAMES U CALL YOUR DATE BEHIND HIS BACK.
Its really fascinating how u go for this date...so excited about it. You happen to put in ur all to give the best impression while at it.
Usually u even alert ur friends so they could help u choose the best outfit for the date. But as u know different people have different styles and ways they take themselves so ur friends might agree on a dress code that is not the best in mind for u but then, deep in mind u be like...afterall its a one time thing so u let it go and bang...its the D hour.
No one looms out for disappointments while at a date...but see...they always find a way to pop out.
Say...ur a gentleman who is so time conscious and the lady takes all the time to show up...u persevere through that.
Ur a lady...all dressed up so fine and awesome for this dude and he happens to show up in funny sandals and a rugged t.shirt with a cracked belt...on a date for crying out loud!!
U have been brought up in the kind of environment where u highly observe table manners and here comes ur date...speaking with food in the mouth u can easily see his throat, move legs anyhowly u der the table and keeps stepping u..(not the romantic kind)
Cracks unnecessary jokes about ur personality....jokes are okay coz they keep the conversation flowing but when they get overly personal.. Becomes irritating.
Ur date concetrates alot on telling u about how much money they could spend on u and how many businesses they own....other than getting to know more alittle about u which is the essence of ur coming to the date in the fast place....its not a business meeting....i might verymuch want to know how ur life flows financially, but u bringing it up on an intimate date is so off point.
Picks up fallen pebbles on the he table and eats them....gross!!
Ur a man...the lady orders for more than u urself can finish and she eats only a quarter of the whole and wastes the rest!
The both of u had decided to have alil time to urselves and ur date recieves endless phonecalls.
Let me get back to the point:
For someone who has had a taste of such a terrible date, u do not expect them to get back to his buddies and say only good things about u...thats if they decide to even tell them about u.
But we all know how friends be..theyll want to know the gist of it all, how it started, went on and ended.
Theyll even ask u about the personal traits each of them wants in a man or woman.And if u decide to cover it up, some could even tell ur lying.
But any friend will openly tell how the date was and will describe the whole thing in one word according to the vocabulary u use around u in ur circles.
"It was such a total waste...guy is not styled up at all and was allover me...ewww...morover he wasnt smelling the best..as u no! Scumbag"
"Mehn...it was awesome...she was all dressed sassy and had a good scent and a lovely sense of humor.... Tell u what...she is 'ma baby'"
Above are some examples of compliments l've heard my friends put accross given their date experiences.
But if it were up to me...say i had a bad one...l'd call him a bam...yes a bam...coz its easier for me that way...summarises all the terrible compliments boiling in ma head.
So...I come back to you...
WHAT NAME WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO GAVE U A BAD DATE EXPERIENCE?
Usually u even alert ur friends so they could help u choose the best outfit for the date. But as u know different people have different styles and ways they take themselves so ur friends might agree on a dress code that is not the best in mind for u but then, deep in mind u be like...afterall its a one time thing so u let it go and bang...its the D hour.
No one looms out for disappointments while at a date...but see...they always find a way to pop out.
Say...ur a gentleman who is so time conscious and the lady takes all the time to show up...u persevere through that.
Ur a lady...all dressed up so fine and awesome for this dude and he happens to show up in funny sandals and a rugged t.shirt with a cracked belt...on a date for crying out loud!!
U have been brought up in the kind of environment where u highly observe table manners and here comes ur date...speaking with food in the mouth u can easily see his throat, move legs anyhowly u der the table and keeps stepping u..(not the romantic kind)
Cracks unnecessary jokes about ur personality....jokes are okay coz they keep the conversation flowing but when they get overly personal.. Becomes irritating.
Ur date concetrates alot on telling u about how much money they could spend on u and how many businesses they own....other than getting to know more alittle about u which is the essence of ur coming to the date in the fast place....its not a business meeting....i might verymuch want to know how ur life flows financially, but u bringing it up on an intimate date is so off point.
Picks up fallen pebbles on the he table and eats them....gross!!
Ur a man...the lady orders for more than u urself can finish and she eats only a quarter of the whole and wastes the rest!
The both of u had decided to have alil time to urselves and ur date recieves endless phonecalls.
Let me get back to the point:
For someone who has had a taste of such a terrible date, u do not expect them to get back to his buddies and say only good things about u...thats if they decide to even tell them about u.
But we all know how friends be..theyll want to know the gist of it all, how it started, went on and ended.
Theyll even ask u about the personal traits each of them wants in a man or woman.And if u decide to cover it up, some could even tell ur lying.
But any friend will openly tell how the date was and will describe the whole thing in one word according to the vocabulary u use around u in ur circles.
"It was such a total waste...guy is not styled up at all and was allover me...ewww...morover he wasnt smelling the best..as u no! Scumbag"
"Mehn...it was awesome...she was all dressed sassy and had a good scent and a lovely sense of humor.... Tell u what...she is 'ma baby'"
Above are some examples of compliments l've heard my friends put accross given their date experiences.
But if it were up to me...say i had a bad one...l'd call him a bam...yes a bam...coz its easier for me that way...summarises all the terrible compliments boiling in ma head.
So...I come back to you...
WHAT NAME WOULD YOU GIVE TO SOMEONE WHO GAVE U A BAD DATE EXPERIENCE?
Thursday, 23 July 2015
HOW FAR SHOULD YOUR MAID GO?
The mordern day wife with kids is almost destined to have a house helper especially if she is the working class type. In that case..when the wife and husband are way at work, charge is in the hands of the maid.
So...in a case where the helper is a female...would you the wife let her organize ur bedroom since sometimes u leave early for work before ur husband! There are two questions here... How much do u trust that maid with ur husband. And how much do u trust ur husband with the maid? Coz let's face it....proximity can always affect both parties.
In the case where u would never let the maid near ur marital bedroom and still u happen to leave earlier for work...yet ur husband comes home earlier..before u..how are u gonna deal with the issue of keeping ur bedroom tidy? My friend..we all know no man would want an untidy woman..one who wouldn't keep the house in order, clean and neat on top of it all, one who has terrible personal hygiene.
I'll leave these questions for u to think about:
1..Would u quit ur job in case ur husband complained about the bedroom hygiene in the latter case?
2..Would u let ur maid take over ur bedroom hygiene due to ur scarcity.. in the former case?
To be continued...
So...in a case where the helper is a female...would you the wife let her organize ur bedroom since sometimes u leave early for work before ur husband! There are two questions here... How much do u trust that maid with ur husband. And how much do u trust ur husband with the maid? Coz let's face it....proximity can always affect both parties.
In the case where u would never let the maid near ur marital bedroom and still u happen to leave earlier for work...yet ur husband comes home earlier..before u..how are u gonna deal with the issue of keeping ur bedroom tidy? My friend..we all know no man would want an untidy woman..one who wouldn't keep the house in order, clean and neat on top of it all, one who has terrible personal hygiene.
I'll leave these questions for u to think about:
1..Would u quit ur job in case ur husband complained about the bedroom hygiene in the latter case?
2..Would u let ur maid take over ur bedroom hygiene due to ur scarcity.. in the former case?
To be continued...
Wednesday, 22 July 2015
DID YOU KNOW THAT PATIENCE SUCKS TO THE CORE!!!
Let's be realistic...
U dont preach patience to a parent who has lost their only child, its not like patience shall bring them back.
U don't preach patience to a patient whose been bedridden for a century to hold on...patience is a myth to such a person.
U don't preach patience to a man who gave up his all, even his cheating habits, to be with a woman of his heart only to find out he's been sharing her with some other nutcase...to him...patience is nonsense.
And so on....
U dont preach patience to a parent who has lost their only child, its not like patience shall bring them back.
U don't preach patience to a patient whose been bedridden for a century to hold on...patience is a myth to such a person.
U don't preach patience to a man who gave up his all, even his cheating habits, to be with a woman of his heart only to find out he's been sharing her with some other nutcase...to him...patience is nonsense.
And so on....
Friday, 5 June 2015
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