SELL YOURSELF IN ONE MINUTE by SARAH KYAZIKE

The I do not care attitude may sound or rather feel fulfilling in that moment, but it sure will not take you anywhere. Well, it might or could, but what are you going to be known for? Rotten manners! Selfishness!

There are time ones when you actually do not feel like talking in that if someone said are word to you or asked a question, you'd rather bury yourself under the sand.
But how long will you keep up the deaf grind?

This is when you have to make an effort, to have an open ear. Not just to anything, but to something, atleast one, or two, even several. Lets face it, closing yourself up from the world won't get you anywhere. People are looking to reach out to thousands by the day in this evolving world. But how are you going to reach someone's heart in just 2 minute minutes.

One evening you get to have a stall in the park to clear your head, or maybe push a friend for basketball practice and you get yourself engaged with your immediate neighbour. You actually came out to clear your head, but as you are conversing, you get to check out different job websites from your phone, he notices and gets to ask you what you think about a cetrain kind of job.

I do not know should be out of your vocabulary. Doesn't do you much. Atleast you should know whether you like it or not. Atleast you've heard a friend mention something about it. All the same, say something, as much as you do not know the intention behind the question, always be positive, show that you would be happy to have something like that and save yourself from banging your head against the wall when you get back home on realising you've just passed on an opportunity you have been looking for for a century.

1. Know what you want.
2. Why you want it.
3. The best words you can use to best decribe/summerise your intent/interest.
4. Be sure you are sure.
5. A smile is proof that you like what you are talking about(not laughing out loud)
6.You should have done some research on the internet about it, how to best present it.

Strangers come with luck. Not all strangers have the best intentions. They do not know you. So why care?

All the same, paint the best picture of yourself. It will shine you allover.

By Sarah Kyazike.

THAT GOOD FRIEND THAT YOUR FRIENDS DO NOT LIKE.

Life is a mystery. This description sounds farfetched. You got to live to understand that mystery is what life is. Otherwise one may not get your point.

Friends! A tidbit that comprises of life. In my previous article I WILL GET THERE was a part where we said that one needs people to get there. These are the friends everyone needs.

We all have that one good friend that your friends don't like. I hate to use the word hate but all me to use it this time.

This is one person that practically looks out for you.It could be your girlfriend/boyfriend, a spouse, a friend with whom you share a certain interest, could be a vice that others do not know about, or maybe understands a certain situation you are in and you probably fear to let these other friends know about because of fear of being judged,
but there is just one something that seems quite off with this friend that makes your other friends frown at his/her sight.

It could be the way he/she dresses, he could be an introvert and finds you more accomodating. There is just so many reasons for you two to be friends but it doesn't quite add up or rather your friendship is not appealing to the onlookers inclusive of these so called friends of yours.

Let me raise this disclaimer. You can be a friend to someone and that someone could not be your friend.
There is that friendship with someone that is silent, confidant. There is also a loud friendship.

You may always look forward to helping someone, doing things for someone or being available incase that someone needs you, because you even get the pleasure to be of help. And of course the is person you are being a friend to takes the opportunity to make use of your availability. Only calls you when they need your help and you are always there.

They are never there when you need them. In fact this one time you actually need help and ask for it, they make a big fuss out of it and trust me you'll wonder what's happening!

Now that shows that you are their friend but they do not consider themselves to be your friend. You only exist to them when they need something. Look out for this before you get used!

Your friends do not like your friend probably because they had a terrible encounter in the past, or rather they know someone that was wronged by your friend, thus they spread the word so that others can hate your friend. But you were not part of their drama. They may ask you what you get to talk about with your him in vain because. They may even ask you to stay away from him/her but you cannot because u also know that your friend needs a friend to talk to.

It really feels bad to see your friend being looked down on. It sucks to see a loved one not being understood and your efforts to make others understand them could even cost your friendship with others. But you try anyway! Sometimes they ask you to disclose what you cant!

Incase your two friends had a clash, you may get caught up in the middle, each one needs you to be on their side. Ofcourse you can tell who is in wrong! But even the one in wrong doesn't want to admit that they are or even apologise. And you want to make them see that this disagreement could cost them more than their friendship, because you know they need each other. Yes! We all need someone to move forward.

This friend in wrong will be cast out of the friendship circle, but see, they are not all that bad! This one error that they have failed to sort out will make them that one friend that your friends do not like because others are siding with the wronged.

We all know anger blurrs our thinking, but we need to learn to think with our brains rather than emotions. You may not be able to take back what you might do or stay in a state of anger. You could lose the potential friends that could build you. Could be  a personal friend or client. Sometimes we cannot afford to lose them.

In a state of getting caught up between that one friend and your friends, you should be rational enough not to let out your friends secrets to your friends, or else you'll be like them.

Your friends might press you too much, sulk at your silence. You could ask them if they would feel good if their confidant let out their secret.
The day you break the secret, is the day you'll break your friend's trust and your friend will lose the only friend they had.

"Imagine you without anyone to look out for you"

If you do not want to be understanding to others, how will they get the zeal to understand you too. They could as well choose not to!

BE THAT FRIEND THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO HAVE.

By Sarah Kyazike

I WILL GET THERE

I will get there,
I hope to get there,

Are silent thoughts each heart, mind and soul murmers to itself through the passing of time.
Most times, others will tell you what you already tell yourself. They will tell you that you will get there. They will say that it is not your time yet.

Question.....
For how long are you gona wait for that time to come around?
Where will you be when that time comes?
How prepared are you to embrace that time?
What do you have at hand to supplement that time?
Are you even sure you will still want that same thing when that time comes to pass?

There is alot more that you ought to ask yourself. I will not answer all those questions for you, but if you follow suit with this article, I am sure you will arrive at a realistic thinking.

Many are times we seek to achieve something. We grow up with the want to be something, take up that proffession, a lawyer maybe. This does not come out of the blue. There is always an inspiration somewhere. It could be that neighbour with loads of money. It could be that Television series that eludes the sophistication of a therapist. The business men that evaded your village with magnificent buildings.

Like I said before, people will tell you what  you already know, you have to work hard, study hard, it might as well stop at that.

What I am trying to say here is you need to get out of that self pity and do something about yourself, ask yourself where to start from, if you can not get the answer to that, ask that person that you think is already there.
Now this is where the confusion comes from. Many tend to think that their footsteps will be the same as those of their icons. That's a wrong mentality.

Make or take your own steps. Human kind was created to be the same but different.

The SAME aspects depicts that what the other did, you can do.

The DIFFERENT on the other hand tells you to create your brand. You are your own self, you got to be different. You can do that same thing with a different approach or rather put a twist to it.

People are looking for what's different. Employers look for that extra potential you can avail them.
Researches are being done day in day out to improve projects.

Lets get back to the delusioned beginner who doesn't see things working out any time soon.
Let me tell you about a story about me.

I was looking at applying for the law undergraduate course at a university and for one to be admitted, they needed to have done a pre enty exam. Towards the date of applying for this pre entry happened to be a series of events thus I got taken up and missed out on the exam. I needed to wait another full year to sit for this same paper.
Devastation was the description of me then. I had resorted to waiting when a friend sat me down and said....

"Whether you do nothing now, whether you do something now, time will still pass. You are grieving about having missed that exam but what have you to show at the end of this one year of waiting. Do you want your life to be the same after or do you want to have made a difference by then....."

Delusions will not help you get anywhere, you have to do something now so that you be somewhere tomorrow. When you start now, that is how you will tell that you like something (what you are doing) and it's from that that you will base your decision either to move on with that particular line, or you might find that you are best suited to do something else.
And this is how you get to tell that u want different.
The trick to getting there is to start now.

You need people, work with people, make relations. Human nature can be truly annoying, but that one person that picks on you might probably know others that can benefit your cause. This is where you get to be mean, you use people to get what you want, perhaps it's the price they are paying for the insults you get from them. Connections are everything.

You could be an expert at something, but because you keep to yourself, the other mediocre man who knows people might land the opportunity before you. People suck, but we all need them.

You need to advise yourself. What others tell you is not always right, God gave you a brain to filter. The icon you are running to for help might not want you to be his competition in the future?, he might actually want to use you to get what he wants and keep you down. Yet you have the potential to do even better than him.

If your dream doesn't scare you enough to get chills, then you ain't dreaming.

It is nice to work for someone or a company but being your own boss is the best.

Don't wait for long, start now and the rest will find you there, technical know who is the ladder to achievement.

You can get there.

MEET YOU AT THE TOP.

BY SARAH KYAZIKE.